July 11, 2014
arrogance, Buddhahood, Buddhism, Compassion, Gratitude, LOVE, Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, SGI
Buddhism, chanting to change others, conflict resolution, Daisaku Ikeda, Happiness, marriage problems, Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, SGI
One of the questions I get most often from readers is this: Should I chant to change other people? The short and simple answer is ‘No. Change your own karma first.’ But before exploring this in more detail, here are the kinds of comments people send me:
Q: When you know that the other person is wrong and ill-treating you, why should I change? Shouldn’t they change instead?
Q: I am chanting for my husband to stop being so lazy. When will he?
Q: I want my daughter to change for the better so that she respects me and treats me with equality in front of my in-laws. How do I chant about this?
December 1, 2013
Buddhahood, Buddhism, Gratitude, Happiness, hope, JOY, Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, Nichiren
Buddhism, conflict resolution, Daisaku Ikeda, forgiveness, Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, Nichiren, peace, Soka Gakkai, war
In my Buddhist practice I have often discovered (always with some reluctance) that, deep down I share the same pain or suffering as the people I consider to be the most awkward / difficult / annoying. This suffering can manifest as shared laziness, prejudice, anxiety, resentment or any number of other very human flaws. Having chanted many times about this, here is how I think it works. As well as our innate wisdom, courage and compassion, we all hold some pain and vulnerability in our hearts. From a Buddhist perspective, we bring much of this with us as ‘karma’ from our previous lifetimes. Rather than face our pain with courage to find out what lessons it may hold for us, our first instinct is usually to cover it in a layer of self-protection. Men are especially good at this.
August 3, 2013
Buddhahood, Buddhism, Compassion, Gratitude, Happiness, hope, JOY, Soka Gakkai
Buddhahood, Buddhism, Daisaku Ikeda, Lotus Sutra, Lou Marinoff, Marianne Williamson, Martin Seligman, Nelson Mandela, Nichiren, positive psychology, self-respect
… Yep, that includes you, your best mate, your lover, your beautiful kids, your gorgeous grandma and your favourite teacher from school. But you knew that already, right? The thing is, it also includes the colleague who bitches about you, the friend who betrayed you, the lover who stopped loving you, the driver who cut you up at a roundabout, the father who judged you, the boss who sacked you and that irritating kid down the road who you feel like strangling sometimes! Although this may be hard to believe, Nichiren was adamant that everyone has Buddha-potential: “All of the people of the ten worlds can attain Buddhahood. We can comprehend this when we remember that fire can be produced by a stone taken from the bottom of a river, and a candle can light up a place that has been dark for billions of years.”
Miso Soup (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
January 25, 2013
Buddhism, Determination, Gratitude, Law of Attraction
This is a post about gratitude and determination, two massive themes in Nichiren Buddhism. I am currently trying to lose weight (or ‘gain slimness’ as we say in life coaching 🙂 ) and recently went out cycling around a lake in the Leicestershire countryside near my home. After 20 minutes I found myself on a really steep hill huffing and puffing against a cold strong headwind and wishing it was easier and that my legs would stop hurting. 😦
Then I saw a man walking towards me (someone I had never seen before) and he just smiled warmly and said: “Keep going mate!” Usually the people I come across on this bike route only say ‘hello’ (if they say anything at all…) so this was a lovely surprise and made me reflect on the kindness of strangers who encourage us but expect nothing in return. More